2. Sprint. Even if it’s for as little as 5 to 10 seconds. Do it every day.

3. Get a good night of sleep.

4. Relax. Read a chapter in a book, or something.

5. Get sun (or Vitamin D).

6. Eat halal meat, seriously. If not, at least make sure the meat you eat is clean.

7. Don’t drive drunk or high. Aside from being unsafe, it may hurt your brain by causing you to have to focus really hard, and if you’ve ever driven drunk or high, you may already know (driving drunk causes you to lose focus and distorts perceptions when driving and driving high may require you to use your brain too hard in a manner that is not fun at all).

8. Don’t smoke. It often takes away focus and reduces flow of testosterone. The above points help you build testosterone, which promotes longevity and happiness.

9. Watch the your sugar intake, but eat fruits. Yes, fruits have sugar, but the sugar in an apple isn’t the same type of sugar that’s in a cookie.

10. Study about behavioral management, leadership, attitude, emotional intelligence, communication, and controlling your thoughts and emotions. Google is a great place to start research on these. They’re all related with each other.

“Do you posses money or by money are you possessed?

Money can buy a house, but it can’t buy a home

So even with money you still feel all alone

Money can buy you friends, but it can’t buy family

Money can’t make you happy, that’s just a fallacy

It can buy a bath, but it can’t buy purity

It can buy bodyguards, but it can’t buy security

While people around the world starve, I eat

Cause money can buy war, but it can’t buy peace

Some do everything and anything to get the p’s

The society we livin’ in, it’s a necessity

It’s got the power to turn your best friends to enemies

It’s funny cause money doesn’t follow us when we leave.

If you take something you, don’t need, and keep it

Then you stole it from somebody else who’s hungry

Everything that you do, is everything you are

Everything that I Am, is everything you’ll ever need”

If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight…

If a child lives with fear, he learns to be apprehensive…

If a child lives with pity, he learns to feel sorry for himself…

If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy…

If a child lives with jealousy, he learns to feel guilt…

But…

If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient…

If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident…

If a child lives with praise, he learns to be appreciative…

If a child lives with acceptance, he learns to love…

If a child lives with honesty, he learns what truth is…

If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice…

If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith in himself and those about him…

If a child lives with friendliness, he learns the world is a nice place in which to live.”

By Dorothy Law Nolte and Rachel Harris

Today’s new article is about respecting women.

We have all made mistakes  and may continue to make those mistakes, but do you know why? Because we forget how to behave. That is all. We forget, and the explanation is as simple as that.

Treat the women in your life and in your environment like you would want people treating your sister, mother, or cousin.

We came from women & were cared for by women. We shall remember this in the presence of women.

It is not enough to hear/watch/or read something and claim to know.

Let us gain the strength to REMEMBER how to behave.

Our true character shows when times become rough.

We must REMEMBER when times are most tough.

The video below explains it all.

Enjoy.

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And trust me, this website was not easy to find. If someone had informed me about this sooner, I would have been in a much better situation, saving many hours of time. I can’t stress the importance of this preparation enough. Just remember.

Take care,

Do people only dislike other people for being cocky because they doubt themselves?

Personally, I do not mind it much when people brag about what they have achieved or have done. More often than not, I know they never intentionally mean any harm by doing so. Why should I mind? They’re only excited about their life, right?

It is always easy to remain humble when everything is good and dandy, but the moment someone criticizes them, they tend to withdraw, especially if the person criticizing does so in a tone which may not be “soothing” enough.

I know people who swear on their lives they are humble, yet, they are not. They are so deep in their beliefs that it is never their fault that they instantly create excuses to justify their reasoning, and if you try to point out their lack of logic, they will not listen at all. They are so involved in their own ego that thinking something else almost seems impossible.

If someone was truly humble shouldn’t that mean they are also understanding and relaxed? (If you disagree or would like to add anything, please leave a comment below explaining your reasoning so we may correct this article.)  I have come to conclude that many people believe they are humble when in fact, they are not.

First of all, I strongly believe that your environment shall be a strong determinant on whether it is the right place and time to be humble. Not everyone will have read articles like you are reading this one, therefore, not everyone may be as understanding as you. Do not mistake being humble with being confident because there is a difference.  Confidence is having a strong locus of control. That means you truly believe that you will obtain the positive outcomes you desire no matter how the process goes. An example of being humble is being able to maintain composure when someone criticizes you, and not letting your ego get the best of you. Again, it is ALWAYS easy to remain positive when everything is going good. It is during stressful situations that one’s true character shows. We must strive to remember how to behave during tough situations.

In contrast, I can understand why it isn’t a good idea to be humble also. In other countries, people tend to be less direct, or more humble during business or discussions. America tends to be more direct, and if people who tend to be more direct are less understanding and less able to recognize one who is less direct during a conversation, we must remember that there is a potential that the humble person may be perceived as a weak individual, whether it be physically, mentally, or via business.

I propose we be humble, confident, and persistent. We can prove ourselves to ourselves by consistently making things happen by REMEMBERING to take positive action. Let us advance in life by remembering to remain humble during proper moments because it is those moments which shape our destiny.

Being humble is the same as having a student mentality, and it is much more difficult to learn when we lack a student mentality. We simply become less receptive to knowledge.

Also, you may want to keep in mind that cockiness and talking about what you want to do may cause people to resent you, and people often do not like to see cocky or arrogant individuals rise above levels which they themselves have yet to achieve. It is easier to rise above when we remain humble because people will like us better.

Another good reason to be humble is because we never know when the tables might turn and it will be us in their shoes that would appreciate that respect and humbleness back.

Some champions I know agree with the following statement: “Those who are humble are capable of taking over the world. Those who aren’t feel they need to prove something to the world. Remember, there’s always a dog bigger and badder than you.”

Now this:  “At home I am a nice guy: but I don’t want the world to know. Humble people, I’ve found, don’t get very far.” – Muhammad Ali

In conclusion, I would like for you to remember one thing.

If someone is not so humble, strive to be more understanding of them. Strive to remember how our world works. I am confident they are better than they may seem.

This is an article for anyone who wants to develop their brain (ha). Please do not feel as if we intend to disrespect anyone. That is NEVER any of our intentions. If you feel as if we have done so please feel free to contact us or leave a comment for any feelings you may have so we can do our best to accommodate to your desires because if you feel this way, we are confident that others may feel the same, and again, we don’t want anyone here to feel upset about anything written in any of our articles.

Please enjoy:

I had a great conversation with a buddy of mine, but this buddy of mine suddenly became very angry with another individual in our crew shortly after our convo because he felt as if people were ignoring him and he thought he heard something which was never said. This event should have NEVER occurred and caused everyone to leave for the night.

He became furious, but continuously claimed he wasn’t upset at all even though his actions looked like he was very mad and he wouldn’t let anyone speak even though he claimed that he had been open minded and politely waiting for an answer. He claimed that nothing done was his fault whatsoever and blamed everyone else. Perception is reality right? But how can we work together so we can all have the same perception? It’s a very tough circumstance as I’m sure you will agree.

Most people would have thought he was provoking fights because he was literally asking for people to fight him. People were treating him as if he were crazy, which I understand, but I want to try to stress the importance of how this situation could have been approached for this event to have occurred much more effectively.

Even during our conversation he stated a few times how he would beat me up if this and that, but I always try my best to remember that all people want to be treated as reasonable people, and I know he’s a cool guy, so out of respect for him, I just continued listening to him and making conversation instead of reacting, as most people tend to do. People want to be treated as reasonable people.

So, during our conversation he said things which would instantly make most people want to fight. Fighting isn’t cool guys. Even if I don’t have a problem with it, it isn’t cool because it can offend the other person and things can turn ugly, and I don’t even want to talk about that. It’s just unfortunate how everyone reacted to him which made everything worse.

I understood that he didn’t really want to harm me or anyone, and as our conversation continued, he inadvertently came to conclusions which led me to believe that he knew exactly how to behave if people reacted properly to him. He came to positive conclusions on his own and I believe that it was because he truly felt like I was trying to listen to him. But even with that being said, people do NOT deserve to be treated the way he treated me or the way he treated everybody else, because that is simply not positive nor fun. Let us strive to understand all this so we can truly be more at peace with one another.

Below I have typed down every text message I sent to one of the family members after this event broke because I don’t want anyone else to ineffectively handle this situation,,,,, and I say this because I KNOW that most of you would have and WILL handle a situation like this incorrectly. Sorry if I hurt your ego by saying that.

I have blocked out all names from the text messages. Excuse my informality.

In conclusion, before beginning the text convo, please note we are not Doctors and are not perfect, only striving to help wherever you feel we can do so. Please be more accepting of any mistakes you may encounter, and please contact us or comment below to let us know how we can better serve you. If you have an issue, I am sure others will also have the same issue, which we would like to know about so we can work on to avoid. With this article we strive to convey compassion and that is all. Please take what you appreciate, and please try to recognize what you should leave out. Please do not become a sheep following and listening to every direction given to you. Also, we may sound redundant at time, but it is because this is a situation where I can’t begin to stress the importance of many factors.

Thank you & We hope you enjoy:

ME: Hey

NOT ME: Hey

ME: Just wanted to let you know that ******* doesn’t feel any love or respect from anybody, and no one can ever react to him when he acts up. The best thing I believe which can be done is to keep quiet and not direct him to do things when he starts acting up. I truly believe the way people approach/react to him when he acts up causes this “disruption of peace.” I talked to him for a long time and he’s actually a pretty smart dude. The best thing for everyone (including his parents) to do is learn how to TRULY set their pride aside and apologize to him,,,, EVEN if it isn’t his parents faults. He’s smart and if everyone in the family does that I believe he will come to all the positive conclusions the family desires, on his own. I know I haven’t seen anything in the background that goes on but I can promise you that if people TRULY don’t react negatively to anything he says and they just TRULY listen to him that things will be better. I promise you he just feels disrespected,,, and I’m not blaming anyone in the family at all,,,, but things have to change if you want the best for him, and I promise that TRULY not reacting negatively to anything he says or the way he acts will be a great start and will help a lot. Even in our own conversation outside he came at me very aggressively many time (at least other may have considered it aggressive), but I truly understood that he didn’t mean harm so I didn’t budge and he came to conclude on his own which showed that he was much smarter than the family takes him for. He just needs more of that. Please make sure that everyone in the family TRULY understands this, and I CAN NOT emphasize the importance of TRULY not reacting to him because I guarantee you that everyone in the fam believes that they even “TRULY” understand the situation and how to handle it. If they did truly understand him they would have NEVER reacted the way they did and this would not have been an issue. He can never feel categorized as crazy, ever. And again, he can never be directed to do anything. His parents must ask how he feels about doing something, and if he says something bad, the parents must initially JUST say okay. And if they want to get their way, they need to relax and wait a minute or a few, and then ask if they may ask him another question. If he says no, they ask “please?” If he gets mad, they apologize, even though it may not be their fault. I am confident that this is more of a test.

******* is a super smart dude. That’s all that everyone needs to understand. He can come to conclusions on his own. It won’t happen instantly but after a situation like this happens, and then when everyone initially kindly apologizes even if the family is not at wrong, and lets him be, I am also confident it wil be a great start for the entire fam.

Do you smell what the rock is cookin ******?

NOT ME:  Haha yess man! Chill I feel you

ME: Do you think you can get everyone to understand this?

NOT ME: Yeah I read it to everyone, and we all see where you’re coming from.

ME: Okay, cool. It’s always easy to be calm and good with him when things are good. It’s when times get tough that all of this information really matters. That’s when the change can truly take effect if handled with care.

NOT ME: Okay Dr. Phil! You got it        Yeah true. I gottcha I get what you mean. My mom says she likes the way you think. It’s just a tough situation, and she says it’s very nice of you to care.

ME: Yeah it’s a very tough situation indeed, but when things get tough is when his parents and the ENTIRE family MUST set their ENTIRE egos aside NO MATTER WHAT, and just REALLY try their best to not react to ANYTHING he says negatively. He’s a smart guy. He most likely WILL say many things that no one wants to hear but EVERYONE must expect though, and I am confident they need to be prepared to apologize to him just to set things at ease, then wait a few minutes to ask him if it’s okay to ask him a question or two.

What I’m about to say may seem somewhat harsh, but this is like business. Almost exactly like business. People don’t often like being approached instantly for business. They want game to be spit at them. Even in relationships… You gotta have game right? This situation is very similar, just much more sensitive of a situation, so things must move even slower. They can’t just expect the business instantly, nor can they instantly ask for it. They need to warm him up, and they can’t expect it to be solved in one session……….. This is similar to a very big sale. Big sales often take time to close. There are often more than one or two or more meetings with long intervals of time in between meetings. You must slowly start big and sensitive transactions by building trust and the way you build trust is by letting the other person know that you are both at the same level. NO MATTER WHAT!

This is very sensitive so you even have to ask if it’s okay to ask questions. If he starts getting loud, you all need to apologize for not having good enough communication skills to speak to him the way he wants to be spoken to. It’s harder than it sounds. It will not be easy by any means whatsoever. Just make sure everybody understands this because I promise you it will be harder than it seems, especially if the family members are truly too weak to TRULY set their egos aside (and I can’t emphasize how many people believe they are good at this when they TRULY are not, because they forget.. you’ll see what I mean, I hope:) The hardest part will be knowing how to ask questions and which questions to ask. ******* is a smart dude and he taught me a lot today. When speaking with him I highly recommend you all disregard the things that sounds unreasonable because I am confident that he is only having difficulty expressing himself for who knows what reason. Everyone’s reactions teach him how the family thinks, and he will behave just like he is treated. Even the retarded cousin isn’t as dumb as you may think her to be. My mom made a deep connection with her today because my mom lowered her ego and slowly, quietly, and kindly asked her questions. She eventually acknowledged my mom, laughed at what she was saying, and acknowledged her as we left the house.

People want to feel like they are reasonable people. We are all students of life and even all the grown ups need to understand (AND REMEMBER!) that. The more they understand and REMEMBER that, the easier the process will be. If you and I don’t emphasize to the family the importance of REMEMBERING EVERYYYYTTHHINNGGGGGG I am saying, then everything I have written is completely useless and nothing will change. As a matter of fact, I DO NOT expect his parents or the family to remember or take much consideration to this one day after they read it, and I say that because of other situations I have experienced in the past. His parents and the family will probably dismiss and/or forget everything I have said because this may be very new information which MAY attack their ego.

I am saying this from personal life experiences from dealing with many people. Expect ******* to initially consider himself as always right and to blame everyone else.

His family can NOT laugh about this matter and they must treat him like an equal member of the family, because no one in your family is any better than him, and he is no better than any of you. Even ****, I saw her disrespecting him one time, and I got really mad about it.

Everyone needs to feel like they are being put in check…. It is called being humble and our society has done a very bad job of teaching it to us (being humble is not always good and not always bad, in this situation, it’s probably a better idea to be humble). Luckily I’m a boss and am here for all of you :p

Btw, make sure no one reads the last part about feeling put in check. I need you to just make sure it happens. If they think I said that to them it will make everything very uncomfortable if I’m around them all again………. And remember this: If you put someone’s ego at risk, they will not want to listen.

Try to read everything over multiple times so you can TRULY internalize everything so you can effectively teach it to your family. The family needs someone to take charge. They better you understand it the better you can teach it.

Make sure everyone knows what to expect so they know how to react, and make sure they are reminded of its importance when the times get tough.

There is a concern that comes to my mind though about all this, since of course, I’m not a Doctor, and haven’t seen the ramifications of what can occur if these “procedures” are followed. I don’t know if treating him with all this respect will cause his ego to become so large that he feels too powerful and behaves even worse. I honestly don’t know. What I would say, if anything, is just to keep this stuff in mind the next time you feel it’s best to stay positive.

Look in the mirror and tell yourself you really love who you are.

Far too many people have little or no self worth.

You are a living breathing miracle. Now start living like it!

 __________

It amazes me, how some people live there entire lives and fail to realize this.

What’s even more amazing is that I once too had low self esteem…

Can you believe it? You want me to let you in in a little secret?

Occasionally I fall back to where I once was! Surprised?

I’m not the superhuman happy Drew you’ve always imagined me to be. The good news is, I learned how to deal with it early on… I have a two step method. 1) I recognize that everyone else is too focused on their own inner game to recognize the defect in mine. We are our own worst critics. Therefore, I can only live with compassion and love towards myself and everyone else. Love casts out all fear and inadequacies. 2) I recognized almost a decade ago…that my mind was a liken to a glass of water. If there is dirt at the bottom of the cup, you don’t use dirty water to rinse it out… You poor out clean purified water. Eventually the dirt breaks free and cleans your cup. Your cup is your mind. Poor good thoughts into this miracle machine of yours known as the human brain. Program yourself every morning. LOOK in the mirror and tell yourself, that you love you. And really mean it. I mean REALLY! It may be hard at first, just keep on keepin’ on it will get much easier. Let go of the past and let the world see the real you. I see who you are… STOP hiding from what you have the ability to become. Your greatest fear is not that you will fail… it is the fear that your purpose and mission is so large and your light is so bright that it freaks you out…..

Stop hiding and get your A$$ out here.

We’re in this together, Drew Canole www.fitlife.tv

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